VARIETY SPICES THINGS UP
SAME OL SEX GETS OLD AFTER A WHILE, if you have read the articles on a woman’s sexual response cycle, you realize that there is allot that can derail a woman’s sexual energy. It is very common and certainly nothing to be embarrassed about; it requires patience in order to figure out why a woman has a decreased sex drive.
First figure out what has caused the decrease in sexual energy and then figure out how to make it better.
I would like to say that couples sometimes make the mistake of “beating it up.” “Beating it up” is a colloquialism for having a lot of back to back to back to back sexual activity. It seems good at the time, and both parties seem to enjoy the experience. But I want to give you an analogy to help you to understand why “beating it up” is sometimes counter-productive.
SAME OL SEX GETS OLD AFTER A WHILE
Imagine sucking vigorously on a lollipop for 4 or 5 hours. Unwrap it and move the lollipop in and out of your mouth and suck on it hard. Now, imagine what your mouth will feel like for the rest of the day. What will it feel like the next morning when you make an attempt to each Cheerios. Your mouth will have sooo many cuts and sores on it, that you might not want to eat for a day or so, and you surely will not want to suck on another lollipop. I use this analogy to help you to understand what a woman’s vagina might feel like after hours and hours of “beating it up.”
In the beginning stages of relationships, we are pretty good at pretending that we want to have sex ALL of the time. As the relationship matures the rawness of her vagina will catch up to her and she will not want to have sex as frequently.
So, now that you realize this, think twice about “beating it up.” There are other activities that the two of you can do that will bring sexual satisfaction to you both. It should not always be about penetration or repetitive sucking motions.