Success Challenge Day #19 – Make sure that what you portray on the outside matches how you feel about yourself on the inside

by Dr. Rachael

by Dr. Rachael

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Make sure that what you portray on the outside matches how you feel about yourself on the inside. It’s too easy to post a bunch of pictures that symbolize success: pictures of perfect trips, cars, relationships, money, purses, shoes, kids, family, etc.  You have to be careful though.  If you post or project a bunch of things that really do not reflect your finances, your happiness, your relationship status, or your family status, you are setting yourself up for disaster, because you are lying to yourself.  You have to build success off of truths and not lies.

So take a look at what you’ve been projecting. Does it paint the accurate assessment of who you really are on the inside?

You stand in your own way of success when you lie to yourself.
Here are some examples:
Posting healthy food choices, but you really just had fast-food yesterday.
Posting $1000 shoes and you are having financial problems.
Posting tons of pictures of you and your kids, but you rarely spend much time with them.
Posting that you are on your way to church, but you haven’t been since last Easter.
Posting pictures of how happy you are and in reality, you are feeling depressed.

Being real with yourself

Being real with yourself starts by being real with others.  Clear off all things that aren’t true nor real, and start to look at who you really are and what you really have.  Once you get to that place, it will become crystal clear what you need to do to become the person you’ve been pretending that you already are.

You’ve already laid the groundwork!  Who we pretend to be, is usually pretty close to who we want to be.  So starting today, make a plan to be that person instead of acting like you already are.

So on day 19 of the #30DaySuccessChallenge, be humble, be ready, be open, be honest, and be yourself!

Make plans so that what you project on the outside matches how you really feel about yourself on the inside. You can thank me later!

Article by

Rachael L. Ross
MD, PhDAs a family doctor and a sexologist.

Dr. Rachael Ross has been heralded as “The next Dr. Ruth, the nationally renowned sexual therapist who pioneered frank sex talk.” Chicago Tribune. Dr. Rachael earned her M.D. from Meharry Medical College and her Ph.D. from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists, along with a B.A. from Vanderbilt University, where she studied anthropology.

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