So you’ve been in a few relationships, but they always seem to end up the same. He decides he wants to be your friend with benefits, and not your boyfriend; or he ultimately comes in and out of your life like a yo-yo.
RULES OF THE DATING GAME
Well, you deserve waaaaaaaaaaay better than that, so let’s go through some rules designed to end the heart-ache and to help you find someone who really likes you for you.
DR. RACHAEL’S GET TO KNOW HIM RULE
Wait until you get to know him before you become intimate with him. This usually takes at least sixty days, and cannot be accomplished through texts. You must spend time with him and/or talk on the telephone to feel him out. He can get great oral, anal, and vaginal sex from anyone! Your goal should be to offer him something that he cannot find anywhere else. If you offer him emotional support, a listening ear, and a fun companion, then you will ultimately become the one he wants to spend time with. Wait to impress him with your skillset.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS BEING P**SSY-WHIPPED
Oftentimes women attempt to get a guy hooked by providing great and fantastic sexual services. This will not work. If you start off offering fantastic sex and you have not given him the opportunity to love your personality or the inner you, he will always think of you as a booty-call. However, if you let him get sprung and whipped on your personality and then you put it on him, now that’s a different story.
IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN, YOU SHOULD WAIT UNTIL AT LEAST SIX MONTHS BEFORE YOU INTRODUCE THEM TO YOUR NEW LOVE INTEREST
People come and people go. If you introduce everyone you date to your children, your kids will start to think that when they are teens and adults that they too should date a lot. Children do not understand dating so you should protect their spirits and provide them with the illusion that Mommy and or Daddy is not a slut. . .or else they will turn out to be one too.
MEN LIKE SPORTS AND COMPETITION, IF IT S TOO EASY IT’S BORING AND NOT WORTH THE TIME.
Guys are competitive by nature. They like to compete and yes, they like to win. What happens when he conquers his favorite video game? He gets bored and moves on. Relationships are not much different. If you make things too easy for him: too available, too needy, too eager to please, too quick to have sex with him, then he will ultimately feel that you are just that easy with all men, and that you are absolutely not worthy of his time.
LISTEN
Men like attention just as much as women do. So let him do some of the talking. Ask him sincere questions in an effort to get to know who he really is. Sometimes silence is golden.
YOU TEACH HIM HOW TO TREAT YOU
Men handle each and every relationship differently, so you have to teach and tell him how you want to be treated. If you constantly allow him to be late, cheat, and/or not return your phone calls, you have trained him to be like that. Let him know early on what you will and will not tolerate. When he deviates from that, you have to speak up and be heard. Otherwise it will happen time and time again.
RELAX
Do not seem overly eager to please. If you call too much in those first few days, too many text messages, and if you jump up every time he wants to do something, you will seem too thirsty and too hungry. Ladies, everything in moderation.
REMEMBER ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER
Give him a chance to miss you. When the two of you are apart, he will have time to remember funny things you said, the great adventures the two of you shared, and the last lingering kiss the two of you exchanged. If you are with him all the time, eventually he will begin to think that you really do not have anything else to do.
MEN REVEAL A LOT ABOUT THEIR PERSONALITY WITHIN THOSE FIRST FEW MONTHS
If he tells you he is not ready for a relationship, believe him. . .you cannot change his thoughts about that issue. If he says he doesn’t want any children and you want six, is this really a match made in heaven?
IF NOONE YOU KNOW LIKES HIM. . .
Find out why not. They might be on to something.
