The person that I am in a relationship with is a player. What can I do sexually to make them feel like they only want to be with me?
Unfortunately, if he/she is a player, and they have no desire to settle down, then they never will. However, if they have been making an effort to settle down and to be faithful to you, then I can give you a few suggestions to help make it happen. First, you have to understand that there are many reasons why a person might have player tendencies, and when you look at the core reason behind it all, players play in order to feel good about them’.
The key to reforming a player is that you must figure out what it takes to make them feel special. Once you figure out what “it” is, you must focus your social and your sexual energies towards it. What appears to be the biggest ego stroke for your player of choice? Some enjoy the challenge and the chase, others enjoy the newness of it, and believe it or not, some just need to feel wanted and adored.
HE/SHE ENJOYS THE CHALLENGE OR THE CHASE
You cannot make anything too easy for these players and playettes or else they will become bored. These players need constant stimulus. Give it up too easily and too often and you will become something and someone that was way too easy to conquer. Sex and life must be full of challenges and creativity. However, do not make things too difficult, because most players are looking for balance. No one wants to haggle and negotiate for everything.
FLIP THE SCRIPT & KEEP THINGS INTERESTING
Come on to him/her. You have to let them know that you find them extremely attractive, smart, and funny. Initiate Sex from time to time to make him/her feel like a sexy beast.
PLAYERS GET BORED EASILY, YOU MUST STIMULATE THEIR MINDS
Introduce them to new ideas and concepts, foreign films they never knew existed, restaurants they have never heard of, and sex they have never imagined existed
EXPLORE THEIR SEXUAL MIND
If you get to know their Sexual-Self, you will understand how to satisfy them sexually.
DO NOT CLING
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. These players need their space, even when they tell you they do not. Do not make yourself too available. Even if you do not have a social calendar, make up one. These players want to be with someone who has plenty of other things that he/she could be doing. Make them sweat you.
PLAYERS LIKE NEW THINGS
This player starts everything and gets bored before they finish. Three weeks ago, they rushed to purchase a new pair of shoes that have already made their way to the very back of the closet. These players need to have newness in their lives in order to feel stimulated.
If the two of you begin to have too many routines or habits, this player will begin to crave spontaneity and newness. Creativity is very necessary! Keep in mind that the bedroom is not the only place to have sex. Try it on the back porch, in the car, or even in the laundry room, The Bathroom. Keep things fun and unpredictable.
CREATE ADVENTURE IN YOUR LIVES
These players need time off from the dullness of every day living. Weekend getaways and daytrips keep his/her life filled with newness and adventure. If you help provide that extra spice to his/her life, they will undoubtedly realize that with you by their side, life feels 100% better.
KEEP YOURSELF FRESH AND NEW
When we fall for someone, it is easy to get too comfortable too quickly. Do not fall into this trap with your ex-player. Stay on your toes: keep your hair done or cut, keep your gear tight, and by all means, do not gain or lose an excessive amount of weight. They might not mention that they notice the changes, but believe me they do. Remember these players like things new and fresh, not old and stale.
PLAYERS NEED A FAN CLUB
We all want to feel appreciated and adored, however, these players end up messing around with anyone who is halfway descent and shows a little bit of interest in them. They hop from person to person in search of someone to make him or her feel good on the inside. These players do not appreciate their own self-worth, and they generally have no idea how much they have to offer.
When dating a player, you have to proceed at a slow pace. Understand that a majority of the drama and heartache that you experience will be because of his/her poor self-esteem. This player needs self-esteem building exercises.
DO NOT MAKE FUN OF HIM/HER
It may seem simple and harmless, but to a person with low self-esteem, jokes can go straight to their gut. When things go wrong, reassure him/her that things could always be worse.
When the rest of the world beats up on him/her, you should stand and support them. This will help build their confidence and help them to understand the true power of two.
COMPLEMENT HIM/HER TO STROKE THAT EGO
These players gravitate to random people because of the random complements. Make him/her feel like a king, queen, prince, or princess, and eventually your complements will be the ones that make him or her stand tall and proud. The other people’s comments will just be extra icing on the cake.
Players can be faithful sometimes they just need to feel like they have a good reason to be.