While your first time may not be all that you had hoped, if you read these tips and take them seriously, you will be able to enhance any and all sexual experiences.
PLAN, PLAN, PLAN
Sex should be a planned event. Remember that you can get AIDS and you can become pregnant the first time you have sex. Decide ahead of time that you are ready to or not ready to have sex with this person. This will eliminate any miscommunication between you and the other person.
At the same time, if you have decided that you are not ready, stick with that decision because there will be plenty of time to have sex when you are ready and when you find someone special.
KEEP CONDOMS WITH YOU
Whether you are a male or a female, you should always carry condoms with you. Princesses, queens, and kings are always prepared. Do not rely on the other person to make sure that you do not catch anything. That is your job. Think of your vagina or your penis as your best friend. You do not want to see your best friend sick and you do not want them to die, so carry condoms with you at all times. Respect yourself and Protect yourself.
PRACTICE PUTTING A CONDOM ON
Learn how to properly use condoms. Most people seem to think that using a condom is very straightforward. The reality is that there is a proper way to use condoms. There is more to using a condom than simply putting it on, you must use it correctly in order for it to protect you. If you use it the wrong way, it can break or fall off!! Get a banana or a cucumber, and practice your skills.
NOT IN THE BACK SEAT OF A CAR
Your first time should take place somewhere that you feel comfortable. Try not to pick places like the backseat of the car, the woods, or in a public restroom. This is important because if it happens in a place that you do not feel comfortable, you might begin to feel dirty and feel like you are not worthy of respect. Also, if it happens in places like those that I have mentioned, your partner may lose respect for you and think that you are a slut. As a result, they may begin to treat you in a disrespectful way.
Remember, if you do not respect yourself, you cannot expect anyone else to respect you. Plus, you are special, you deserve better than the backseat of someone’s car. Kings, queens, and princesses are very selective about who they have sex with and where they have it.
LUBRICATION IS IMPORTANT
One of the best ways for you to make sure that both you and your partner enjoy the experience is to make sure that you have a water-based lubricant close by. The most popular kind is KY-Jelly. This will help the condom slide in and out of the vagina with ease and will cause the vagina to tear less. For the first few times that you have sex the vagina will tear. KY-Jelly will make this more comfortable because the vagina will stay wet and will not be damaged as much.
Even after you get the hang of it, continue to use the jelly because it will also enhance pleasure. Remember, water-based lubricants, NOT VASELINE!!!
LOOK BEFORE YOU LEAP
Keep the lights on. This may sound funny because people think that being in the dark is more romantic. Well having sex in the dark is DANGEROUS. Remember that your vagina and your penis are your best friends. You want your best friends to see what is about to go inside of them or what they were about to go inside of. Look at your partner’s vagina or penis. This is important because a lot of STDs can be seen. If it does not look right, then your best-friend should not be involved with that particular vagina or penis.
Also keep in mind, that if you do not REALLY know someone, you never know what he or she is capable of. Many people will remove the condom when the lights go out. So be careful. You are too special to have to deal with that drama!!
IF IT DOES NOT FEEL RIGHT, YOU CAN WALK AWAY
It is never too late to change your mind. If you get in the situation and you begin to change your mind, then your partner must respect that. Once you say “no”, or “stop”, he or she must do that; or else it is considered rape.
You have to go with your instincts. If it does not feel right, then it is not. Your partner MUST respect your decision to stop. But please be careful. If you have given your partner the impression that he or she is about to get some, and then you change your mind at the last minute, you could put yourself in a dangerous situation. Some people will not know how to stop. So please be smart!!!