In urban populations teens on average start to have sex between the ages of 13-14. At the tender age of thirteen, in many households parents have not discussed any parameters about sex. Most of the parent/child sex conversation centers around phrases like “you better not get anyone pregnant” or “I’m not ready to be a grandmother” but neither phrase is accompanied by any real educational resource.
The problem with sex and condom use has to do with a number of factors: the cost of the condoms, ignorance, how available they are, but also good old-fashioned pleasure. The pleasure principal is one of the guiding reasons people decide not to use condoms. Everyone knows it feels so much better without one.
Since pleasure-seeking is such a huge part of our culture, pleasure is sought and the condom either comes off or never makes it into the picture. Train not just teens but also train yourself to use condoms. You build habits through practice and repetition. The first time you start to realize that your son touches and plays with himself, this is the time to talk to him, tell him that you would rather he touch himself than allow another person to do so, remind him how special that part of his body is, and then encourage him to wear a condom while he masturbates.
If your son gets comfortable using condoms, trains himself to enjoy the sensation, and also starts to understand the importance of wearing them at an early age, he will become conditioned to use them when he becomes a sexually active ‘adult.’ One extra perk is that mom won’t have quite as much trouble getting her adolescent’s bed-sheets clean.