Challenge Day #20 – Evolve!!

by Dr. Rachael

by Dr. Rachael

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Successful people are always on to the next.  They know there is always a better way to do things, so they constantly try to learn new ideas, new concepts, and new processes.  They know that time stands still for no one, so they keep moving.  They seek out new places because they understand that experience shapes their future.

You sit and ask yourself why you’ve been so lazy.  Some people just can’t figure out what about life has gotten them to the point where they won’t update their resume, they wont look for a job, they wont sign up for the class, they wont try any different clothes on, they won’t change their hair, they won’t learn how to cook, they just won’t do it.

From the outside it seems like a lack of ambition, almost like a form of laziness.  But in reality it’s worse.  It’s paralyzing.  It’s fear!  Being afraid of change keeps you stuck right where you are.  Being afraid to fail.  Afraid to succeed.  Afraid of the payoff.

Some people are so afraid of change

Some people are so afraid of change that they would rather stay in a miserable situation instead of enduring the pain of change.  Would rather stay stuck in the 90s than evolving into the two thousand teens.

Here’s how to know if you’ve gotten stuck in your evolution cycle.

Look at an old picture, does your hairstyle look the same as the one you wore 5 years ago?

Look at your daydreams from five years ago, did any of those dreams become reality?  Look at your finances, are they the exact same that they were 3 years ago? (I’m not asking if you are making the same money, but are you budgeting or spending it the exact same way?)

Look at your relationship, are you two having the same exact problems that you had when it began years ago?

Look at your weight.  Have you been struggling with it for years and still haven’t done anything to change it?

Being afraid to evolve is natural

Being afraid to evolve is natural.  It’s really a fear of what you don’t know and what you cannot control:  It’s thinking that being complacent and semi-comfortable is better than not knowing for sure that what you want out of life is even possible.  It’s worrying that what you have now might be better than the unknown…you’ve got to trust that evolving will be better!

It’s self-doubt:  It’s doubting whether or not you are going to succeed.  One thing about it, you will never succeed if you don’t embrace the concept of change.

It’s the Agony of Choice:
It’s hard to even decide what you want for dinner.  So of course it’s difficult to decide what changes will be right for your life.  Success is a choice.

It’s being stuck on the safety net:
Sure, safe is comfortable.  Safeties are those little perceived perks you’ve gotten along the way.  What safeties really do is keep you comfortable staying right where you are.  They keep you from having the hunger and desire to change and to evolve.

Feel intimidated by your evolution

There will be some people who feel intimidated by your evolution because they are paralyzed in their own fear….stuck in the same spot.  Be honest with those people and tell them that you are gearing up for the ride of your life, and if they cannot adjust and evolve with you, that they might just end up being left behind.

So on day 20 and on every day of the #30DaySuccessChallenge, I challenge you to evolve!

If you don’t know how to cook, learn.  If you have a class you’ve been kind’ve wanting to take, register!  If you know your look is outdated, update it.  If you know that you want a new job, look for one.  You cannot succeed or evolve if you do not try.   Trying is the only way to really move forward.  its the only way to truly evolve and to grow.

Article by

Rachael L. Ross
MD, PhDAs a family doctor and a sexologist.

Dr. Rachael Ross has been heralded as “The next Dr. Ruth, the nationally renowned sexual therapist who pioneered frank sex talk.” Chicago Tribune. Dr. Rachael earned her M.D. from Meharry Medical College and her Ph.D. from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists, along with a B.A. from Vanderbilt University, where she studied anthropology.

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