Being Honest About Your Sexuality
HOW TO BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR SEXUALITY
Being honest about your sexuality, make Sure You Trust Him/Her. When you tell someone something so important and serious, trust is an important issue. He or she should earn the right to know. No one is entitled to the information. Unfortunately people gossip. So make sure that he or she is not the type that will put your business in the streets.
TIMING IS EVERYTHING
The time to tell is when monogamy and longevity becomes an issue. You do not owe it to any partner to tell them about your sexual interests. However, once the relationship progresses to a certain level, you should share this information with your partner. The relationship will mean more to both of you if you open up about your sexuality and sexual behavior.
TELL YOUR PARTNER NOT TO TELL
This sounds obvious, but it never is. You must tell your partner what you expect from him or her, this is why trust is such an important issue. He/She will inevitably say, “I just told one person. . .” That one person is sure to multiply within the course of a few weeks.
REASSURE YOUR PARTNER
Tell them that what your honest plans are. If you “need” to have sex with members of the same sex, be honest about it. Let them know that you have no intentions of stopping or that you have to have it every now and them. Do not lie and make him/her think that their stuff is so good that you might wake up “cured” one day. It doesn’t work like that.
TELL YOUR PARTNER TO HELP YOU KEEP THINGS SAFE
Tell him/her that they have to insist that the two of you use protection when you have sex. You are only human so you need your partners cooperation to ensure that some type of protection is used each time. If you guys don’t work together as a team on this one, it will not happen.
EXPLAIN TO YOUR PARTNER WHAT SEX MEANS TO YOU
Sex is sex, but just because you have sexual intercourse with someone else, that does not mean that you care about your partner any less. This is very difficult for people to understand, but both of you will be happier if an attempt is made to understand this concept.
SUGGEST THAT YOU BOTH GET TESTED EVERY SIX MONTHS
The truth is that anytime you have sex with someone you put yourself at risk to get HIV/AIDS or any other STD. This is true whether you have sex with someone of the same sex and if the person is of the opposite sex. You need to know your status. The only way to know is to periodically get tested.
EVEN IF YOU DON’T TELL, CHANGE IS OK
If you do something sexually that puts your partner at risk of contracting an STD or HIV/AIDS, do not hesitate to use protection even if the two of you had stopped using them. They will ask, why are you trying to use condoms now? We haven’t used any in almost a year? If honesty is not your thing, LIE. Tell them it is so you can last longer, or because your area feels irritated. Use the protection and then head to your doctor for a check-up. See our section on how to be protect both of you when you cheat and our section on Safer Sex.
IF YOU HAVE FOUND SOMEONE SPECIAL, DO NOT SWING BACK AND FORTH
Some people cannot help themselves. But you should try to become a One-person lover. If you dip back and forth, your mind will STAY confused about what it is that you want out of your relationship. If you promise your partner that you will only have sex with him/her, you should honor that.
DON’T BRING TRASH HOME
You should develop an inherent drive to protect your loved one. If you lay with someone else, make sure that you are SAFE before you have sex with your partner. Go see your doctor and get checked out. If you love him/her you should expend a large amount of energy to protect him/her from you