Bisexuality, everyone has a sexual template or a sexual ideal that develops sometime during adolescence. This means that each of us has a mental picture of which we have the most sexual attraction towards.
For some, their ideal sex object might be a six-foot tall Black man with a huge Afro, for another, his/her sexual ideal might be a five-foot tall white woman with blond hair, and still another might ultimately have a nine year old as his/her sexual template. But as you have probably come to figure out by now, oftentimes we do not end up having sex with our template, but instead we end up with variations of the ideal.
This is what is meant when people say that there is a lot of gray area in sexuality. Just because you find ultimate satisfaction with a male partner, does not mean that you will not be able to become sexually aroused by a female and vice versa. This explains how someone who is mostly sexually and mentally attracted to members of the opposite sex will manage to become sexually attracted to members of the same sex.
The gray area of sexuality confuses so many people and as a result it is often difficult for people to imagine how someone can be “gay” if they have ever had sex with a member of the opposite sex. “Girl, he’s not gay, he has six kids!” It is also difficult for one to imagine how a “straight” person can have sex with a person of the same sex, “Girl, we had great sex! I know he’s attracted to women.”